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Violets, Lisa Kamen, What Is Your Happiness

Violets, Lisa Kamen, What Is Your Happiness

By Lisa Cypers Kamen

The simple honest answer is no. You may experience a sense of happiness or temporary happiness but it won’t last.

Connected closely with beauty are five things that you think will make you happy, but that in the end really won’t. In no particular order, they are:

Fame. Studies show nothing is more stressful for a human than when their goals are tied to the approval of others. Particularly when those “others” are an enormous crowd of fickle strangers holding you up to an unrealistic ideal built by publicists, thick makeup and heavily Photoshopped magazine covers.

Wealth. Your brain adjusts feelings of happiness downward after you’ve reached some goal or other. It regulates the good feelings, presumably so that you have motivation to reach the next goal instead of just lounging by the pool for the rest of your days. Also, as social creatures, we compare ourselves with others.

Beauty. Remember that beautiful people have the same self-esteem issues that those who are perceived as less beautiful have. being physically attractive has concrete advantages. Attractive people earn more, get better grades, have better jobs and find more successful partners than average people and strangers are more likely to help them out if they are in a crisis.

Genius. This is being used in a much broader sense, meaning anyone with an extraordinary talent or skill.

Power. All the other aspects mentioned above are all about power. Think about it. Fame is about having power in the relationship with the fans. Beauty is about gaining power through others’ sexual desire and jealousy. Genius means society needs your skills more than you need its approval. Money . . . well, money and power are connected.

Independent filmmaker, author, happiness coach and speaker Lisa Cypers Kamen creates these blogs to entertain, enlighten and educate us as we each undertake our own personal search for happiness.  Happiness is an Inside Job. To contact Lisa, email her directly at lisa@whatisyourhappiness.com and check out her website at www.whatisyourhappiness.com


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